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The Codependent Person’s Bible – Codependent No More

If you are reading the articles on this website then you are probably searching for help. Perhaps you had a run in with the alcoholic in your life. Maybe you just can’t take it anymore – the broken promises, your constant sadness and frustration, the tears that never seam to stop.

I know how you feel, I have been there. Just like you I would search the internet after he passed out. I was desperate for help. I clung to every word I read, searching for words of hope and the promise of a better day. As I read I came to realize that I needed more than the things I could find on the internet. I needed something tangible, something I could hold in my hands. Something that I could read as I spend time locked in my bedroom away from the rage.

This is what I found. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. This book is one of the most important books you can read if you are trying to overcome codependency and break free from it’s chains.

Codependent No More is written by Melodie Beattie, a woman who faced overwhelming codependency in her life. She has been there, felt so down trodden that it seemed that life wasn’t worth living. But not only did she rise above it, she made it her mission in life to help others overcome codependency.

This book helps you to identify codependent symptoms. It also helps you to see that there is hope, you can overcome. In addition to detailing symptoms and real life stories, the book has a worksheet at the end of each chapter. As you go through the worksheets you will be able to see how you are progressing toward codependency freedom.

If you or someone close to you is suffering from codependency, this book is a must have. Not only will it help you work through your codependent tendencies, it will help you to heal. It will help you to rise above and become stronger. You will learn how to stand up for you and not cower in fear any more.

This book is a must for anyone who is dealing with an alcoholic or addict in their life. Whether you are a spouse, sibling, parent or child, this book will help you help yourself so you can better help them.

Buy it now for less than $10. It is worth every penny and more!  Click here to purchase:
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Signs You May Be Codependent

Here is a short video that can help you decide if you are codependent or not. Watch it carefully and see if these factors are present in your relationship.

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What is Codependency?

Codependency is a term that we seem to hear a lot, but what does it really mean? If a person is codependent are they a bad person? Are they crazy? Just what is Codependency?
The dictionary definition is:

co-de•pen•dent or co•de•pen•dent (kō’dĭ-pěn’dənt)
adj.
1. Mutually dependent.
2. Of or relating to a relationship in which one person is psychologically dependent in an unhealthy way on someone who is addicted to a drug or self-destructive behavior, such as chronic gambling.
n. One who is co-dependent or in a co-dependent relationship.
co’de•pen’dence, co’de•pen’den•cy n.

Hmm – I am not sure that definition describes me. Why would I be in an unhealthy relationship? Don’t I deserve better than that? The truth is, many people – both men and women are in unhealthy relationships. They just can’t see it or won’t admit it. I know this – I have been in a relationship like this for almost 30 years. Yet, I only admitted that it is codependent a few years ago.
We see ourselves as caretakers – people who do their best to look after the people they love. We protect them, clean up after them, make excuses for them, take care of them. We do all this to the point of destroying ourselves.

Does this sound familiar:

  • You have to be perfect all the time
  • You do not show emotion
  • You keep the family secrets
  • You make excuses & clean up the messes
  • Others opinions are more important than your own
  • You react from fear of rejection or anger – You do not voice your opinions because you fear the reaction you will get
  • Your quality of life is directly related to your relationships
  • Low self esteem
  • No boundaries or the boundaries are not firm

The list could go on and on. But we don’t want to dwell on the negative. This site is here to help us overcome our destructive behaviors and find the happiness and peace we crave. So let’s begin this journey together as we strive to break free! We will learn and explore just what is codependency.

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